Friday, December 13, 2013

7 Quick Takes, Volume 28

{story of a soul, condensed}

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{1} Taking a break from blogging as I've done the maternity leave gig has been really relaxing, and now I'm happy to be writing often again!  I posted Aaron's birth story on Wednesday--if you missed it, you can read it here.


{2} I am so, so in love with this baby!  But you guys.  Breastfeeding.  If I could do one part of my pregnancy differently, I definitely would have signed up for a class or done some reading ahead of time.  I expected that it's natural and, therefore, easy, but that hasn't been the case at all for me, and unfortunately, the nurses in the hospital weren't the most helpful before we brought Aaron home.  A wonderful lactation consultant has been helping us, this article has kept my hope going, and I'm pretty determined to make it work, but this stubborn boy just refuses to latch most of the time!  So, there have been plenty of tears, I've been accessorizing with a breast pump and bottles lately, which can be a little isolating but is a solution for now, and have been praying like crazy for Saint Gianna's and Saint Andrew's intercession (you can find the Saint Andrew Christmas novena here).  It felt a little weird at first, praying for, you know, my boobs, but I've come to realize that my body expresses who I am, and it's no weirder than praying for any other grace in parenting.  Or maybe I'm just desperate.  I'd so appreciate your prayers, too!

{3} I read this article about modesty this week, which led me on a trail to this article about yoga pants.  I'd be so interested to hear your thoughts: first, are we ladies all talking about the same thing when we say "yoga pants?"  The second article, to me, evokes more an image of leggings when the author says, "The pants are skin tight.  You can see every curve of my lower body."  Anyway, I'm anti-leggings, but all about yoga pants, which makes me curious about your opinions.  In my mind, because the pants are far less skintight than leggings in the buns and because they have a straight or boot-cut leg, rather than a fitted one, there's not really a question of modesty, but what with all the backlash out there, maybe I'm wrong.  Thoughts?



{4} It will be our first Christmas in this apartment!  We love living here, but we do have significantly less space than in our last place, so we couldn't put up our regular tree this year.  But, I'm already so fond of this little Charlie Brown one I found at Michael's and have enjoyed getting some decorating done this week!

{5} On the subject of Christmas and Advent, I would love to hear about your family's Advent traditions!  It's really important to Andrew and I to create memories for our kids of a time of holy, joyful preparation for Jesus' birth, and even though Aaron won't remember this year's season, I figure it's never too early to start getting inspired for our present and future family!  So far, we've really enjoyed praying the rosary around our Advent wreath, and I am all ears for other ideas, too!

{6} There are so many trials that come with being wedded to academic life, but one of the best things about Andrew's grad student gig is having a whole month off for winter break!  I'm so thankful that his time off coincides with my time here at home with our little one and that we'll have so much freedom to celebrate our first Christmas as a family!  For a full-time student, there's really no such thing as a night off because constant reading, lesson planning, and grading mean that my husband isn't ever able to leave work at work, and it's already been such a gift to see him unburdened and able to enjoy his time.

{7} I'm not sure if this exactly falls under "Advent traditions" so much as holiday traditions in general, but we've been baking up a storm this week!  I highly, highly recommend these, with a little peppermint extract added in!

Have a wonderful weekend; I'd love to know what you're up to!


16 comments:

  1. Love those pictures of sweet little Aaron! Keep 'em coming!! I'm sorry you're having issues with breastfeeding, but that's great that the LC has been able to help you. Lots of prayers your way! The first two months BF Alessandra were very difficult, and then she just kind of "got it." Hopefully Aaron will be the same way.

    Wait, what? There's an uproar over yoga pants? Man I'm in trouble. You can pry my yoga pants out of my cold, dead hands. It never even occurred to me that people would consider them immodest (especially considering I usually pair mine with an oversized sweatshirt...fancy schmancy, I know). :)

    Glad you're back-I missed your blogging!!

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    1. Thanks so much for your prayers; keep em coming, please! I felt the same way with the yoga pants--totally unaware! I go the schmancy route myself and think something like a sweatshirt is way more appropriate than a sports bra or tighter top.

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  2. Prayers coming your way re: #2, Stephanie. Breastfeeding really IS hard when your baby has trouble latching. Just follow your instincts and do what's best for your sweet baby, and have peace knowing you're doing your best. (Wait, you did ask for advice, right??) :-)

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  3. Yay you're back to blogging!! Prayers on the breastfeeding. I've seen from working in the clinic how hard it can be for moms. And my doctor encouraged me to take a class (which I probably wouldn't have done otherwise since I naively thought I knew enough about it).

    I have to say that I mostly disagree with the article on yoga pants. I'm all about modesty in dress, but I think her post takes things too far (and in my opinion strayed from emphasizing our dignity as women to supporting a male-dominated/controlling view...haha my Catholic feminism is getting the best of me here). I admit though that tight yoga pants + a skin tight tee would definitely be immodest. And as for leggings, I've never been much for them but I've found that they are the only thing that works for me right now since my normal pants are uncomfortable but maternity pants are too big. I wear them with a bum-covering tunic of course :)

    Stephen and I got our first real Christmas tree this year and it was so exciting! And I love your tradition of praying the rosary around the Advent wreath.

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  4. My family and I are really enjoying doing a Jesse tree this year - I love watching my husband and kids interact over the readings!

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  5. Hi Jen!
    I saw your link to my post on yoga pants, and since I wrote the post thought it would be easiest for me to answer your question myself. First your blog is great - loved your different numbered links here!

    When I say yoga pants, I mean the pants that are skin tight over a woman's rear - some call them leggings, but yoga pants are for working out whereas leggings are more casual. I've interviewed about 30 guys on this topic and all of them concur that pants that tight are a stumbling block for them (my fiance, Mr. M, is not the only one). However, my post was concentrating on the heart of modesty, and why it is important for women to prioritize it in their lives to honor God, maintain their own dignity, and protect the men around them (as far as we can) from lust. I do this out of honor for other women's husbands and sons, because I'd want the same done for my husband to be.

    I hope that helps!
    Phylicia

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    1. Hey Phylicia, thanks for dropping by and for your clarifications! I was talking with my husband about this after showing him your post, and was surprised to find that he shares a similar view--i.e., the pants themselves aren't a cause of temptation to impurity for him with other women, but he does consider them tight and bun-centric and thinks they aren't always worn in a proper context (like wearing them to class instead of the gym, etc). I definitely agree with you on the heart of modesty issue =)

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  6. I LOVE my yoga pants... but I only wear them around my house (of all women) because my fiance struggles with it. He says if they are tight on the butt thats all it takes. It doesn't matter how they are around the ankle. (Even though I feel like they aren't as bad because they are boot cut...) They are still skin tight (calf and higher) and still cause temptation to men.

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    1. Thanks for sharing, Emily! The struggle they can cause for even good, holy men, is an eye-opener for me and I think it's great that you honor that!

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  7. I didn't take a breastfeeding class before my daughter was born either, and it was hard in the beginning! I remember crying because I was just so frustrated (and it hurt!). Have you tried getting your hands on a copy of La Leche League's Breastfeeding book? If not, I recommend it. The Dr. Sear's book isn't bad either, and his new Baby Book has a section on breastfeeding as well. You might even consider going to a La Leche League meeting. Just know that it gets easier. I thought it was always going to be complicated and trying, but now we can nurse without turning on the lights at night which was unthinkable a few months ago.

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  8. I think that it really depends on how you pair your yoga pants. I would never wear them out with, say, a tank top,but I would wear them with a longer, looser shirt that covers most of my bum. Heck, I've even worn leggings paired with a sweater dress and knee high boots and my boyfriend did not have a problem with it (except for his particular loathing of the sweater, but whatever, its comfy lol). It really depends on circumstance too, I've found. For example, I would never wear my yoga pants into a church, but I'm absolutely fine wearing them to the gym, on a walk through the neighborhood, or on a quick grocery store run. I also feel like modesty is so subjective. Something that one woman finds modest, another will find extremely immodest. You can't make everyone happy. Even wearing a burka has its allurement, I remember a story about some ancient Muslim guy who fell in love with a woman just by seeing a smidge of her slim wrist. People just need to learn to view the human body as something so marvelously beautiful. When I was in Rome, there were a lot of nude statues, but I got over it because I learned to see the beauty in the form,not just the naked body. We need to learn to do that with living bodies too.

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    1. Oooh JPII is jumping out at me from your comment, Marissa! He says, like you, that context is important in modesty; for example, it's perfectly fine to wear a (modest) bathing suit at the beach, yet that same suit would be inappropriate in, say, the grocery store. And yes, the human body *is* beautiful and expresses His glory! Seeing the body presented with dignity, like the statues in Rome, is a huge difference from seeing the body and the person degraded, as it would be in a pornographic context.

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  9. Well, here is the article that I've found to be most helpful in targeting the yoga pants issue: http://amylfritz.wordpress.com/2013/12/13/that-day-i-wanted-to-wear-yoga-pants-my-thoughts-on-modesty-2/

    (*braces for impact...*)
    I love it. Maybe it speaks to me more because my husband doesn't struggle when I where tight pants/yoga pants/leggings? I love the distinction between attraction and lust; I think that's so important to explore.

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    1. That is a great distinction, and I'm so intrigued, but it looks like the link doesn't work! Is there an alternate way to get to the article? My husband doesn't struggle, either, but he does acknowledge that tight pants aren't the most modest choice--that's an interesting difference, too, the one between finding an article of clothing a personal source of immodesty vs. that clothing being immodest in principal.

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